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• 7 Deadly Sins of Relationships

  September 25, 2012

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  Don’t come crying later, that no one warned you ;)
  
  

  1. Rushing with sex
  There is no universal norm, when is the best time in a new relationship to jump between the sheets. Every couple, however, knows on their own, when is the right time. Both need to be ready, and neither one should feel like they were sweet-talked into sex. 

  2. Sharing everything right away
  When you find that “one and only”, it’s only natural, that you want to tell them everything right away - your success and failure stories etc. You don’t need to do that. Firstly, should you break up, this is something you’ll regret later. Secondly, let some things be a surprise or just for future. You have all the time in the world. 

  3. Too many calls, texts or emails
  Give your new partner some space to live and breathe! You don’t have to be in touch 24/7 and let each other know what you’re doing or what you’re wearing. A little time apart is only healthy for your relationship. 

  4. Snooping around on each other
  It might be very tempting to check your lover’s phone or inbox, but try to contain yourself. Who would want to be with someone, who can’t be trusted or doesn’t trust you 100%? Would you like it, if they spied on you?

  5. Faking an orgasm
  Faking is just a little white lie, isn’t it? You couldn’t be more wrong! In the long perspective, it damages your sex life immensely. Try to be as honest as you can in the beginning. A man or a woman doesn’t know how to please their partner, who doesn’t even know what they want themselves. 

  6. “Maybe he/she will change?”
  People don’t change much as they age, but rather, their current habits tend to get stronger. For example, if a man is grumpy, then in his later years he will be especially angry. If he can’t make a sandwich now, then when he’s old, he won’t even find the fridge. If you want your lover to change, change lovers. 

  7. Forgetting to take care of yourself
  In the beginning of your relationship you go work out 3 times a week and you had no hairs on your legs. Your hair was always done! Now you’ve given up on working out, you shave only when the hairs on your legs are getting stuck in the sheets? Look in the mirror and think - are you still the same person your partner fell in love with? If not, it’s time for a change. 
  
  Original post by sheknows.com (source: Delfi.naistekas.ee)

• 10 Dating Mistakes to Avoid

  May 31, 2012

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  1. Make it all about you. One of the fastest ways to turn off a guy is to rattle on about your day, your friends, your family — all without asking him a single question. Go for a conversation, not a monologue, and leave room for him to listen and respond.
  2. Make it all about him. It shouldn’t be a one-sided interrogation, either. Steer clear of 20 Questions so that he doesn’t feel like he’s in the hot seat.
  3. Scan the room. If you’re constantly surveying your surroundings, he’s going to feel like he’s not good enough — and that you’re not worth the time. Maintain eye contact to show your interest and let him know that you care about what he has to say.
  4. Say you’re a “guy’s girl.” Bragging that you’re just one of the guys will make him think that you can’t get along with other girls. (Talk about a red flag.) Step back and see what you’re really trying to express, whether it’s your love for sports or your low-key attitude.
  5. Chug your drinks. It’s fine to sip your drink throughout the interaction, but if you’re looking for lasting love, avoid any top-to-bottom swigs. Drinking heavily can send the wrong signal and you’re likely to ruin your conversation skills. 

  6. Bring up your ex. It may seem like a no-brainer, but any mention of your previous boyfriend(s) is sure to send him running for the hills — or the bar. There’s no need to swap ex stories right away, so do yourself a favor and focus on the present.
  7. Repeatedly insist on paying. Offering to pick up the tab is nice once, maybe twice, but after that, it starts to seem rude. Allow him to pay and volunteer a polite thanks to preserve his ego.
  8. Laugh a lot. A laugh here and there shows that you have an upbeat, positive attitude. Nonstop giggling through all your sentences? It’s a bit much. Relax and be yourself.
  9. Vent about work. Every job has its stresses, but that doesn’t mean you need to share them. Announcing your work-related worries to someone you’ve just met is a surefire way to nix the potential, so emphasize the positive or switch topics instead.
  10. List your accomplishments. You may think you’re just describing your past, but sharing all your greatest achievements can come across as boastful. Nobody likes to feel like you’re trying to one-up them, so go ahead and convey your expertise, but counter those comments with thoughtful, curious questions about his abilities.
      
      Original article on Tressugar.com - How to lose a guy in 10 minutes